Showing posts from October, 2012

Speaking at The Nines

A few months ago I was asked to submit a 5-minute video for The Nines - an online conference where dozens of ministry-related leaders share insight on a variety of relevant topics. My assigned subject matter relates to dealing with a "fallen" pastor.  Needless to say, I have some experience on this issue from the wrong side of the equation.  I agreed to submit a video on this very personal topic for a couple of primary reasons.

1. Experience is a teacher. 

I do not want anyone to go through what I have been through in the last few years. The pain created by my sinful choices can't be described. It can only be experienced. And I honestly do not want anyone to endure the unnecessary consequences I have faced. I pray my experience can help someone else avoid the potential outcome such choices create.

2. Knowing how to deal with someone who has fallen is difficult. 

One thing I learned through my experience is that many ministry leaders simply do not know how to deal with situ…

Divorced? Remarried? Me too.

I am divorced.

I am remarried.

This is my reality (and the reality of many others).

The circumstances that led to my divorce and remarriage are not pretty. I was unfaithful to my first wife. I sinned against her. I allowed my heart to grow hard and refused to turn from my sin and trust God. And as a result, my first wife rightfully filed for divorce. I did not fight it. I simply allowed the process to happen in order to get my way.

I live with this reality every day.

Unfaithful. Divorced. Remarried.

Over the last 18+ months, I have listened to multiple sermons on divorce and remarriage. When I was a pastor, I preached several messages on this difficult subject. Heck - I even wrote a 300+ page PhD dissertation on the subject. And yet, my reality remains: unfaithful - divorced - remarried.

Of the many homilies on this subject I have listened to or presented, almost all of them deal with the "how to avoid it" side of the issue. Most approach it from a preventative perspecti…